Are We In A Simulation?!

Are We In A Simulation? Crazy question right?! This was a topic mentioned in one of my first classes of the semester. It was about Nick Bostrom’s simulation argument which argues that we are waaaayyyy more likely to be living in a simulation (like the computer games Sims) than not living in a simulation. Think Matrix meets ChatGPT. So I would definitely say, the year has started with a rabbit hole of a bang. 😅

I also learned the word philosophy is derived from the latin terms philein & Sophia meaning basically, “lover of wisdom”. A philosopher is someone who gets others to think critically about the obvious. If ya know me, ya know meeeeeee and this major makes the most sense.

I am enjoying all of my classes (theater, intro to philosophy, critical thinking, finite mathematics and history), but philosophy & critical thinking are by far my most favorite (obviously cuz that’s what I signed up to focus on right?). After every class I have so much to share. My problem is, once I tell my husband and a friend and a kid and a sibling, i’m pretty much feeling like, that’s enough. SOOO, I am going to try my best to make videos to share my thoughts. To be frank, I have learned so much in the last two days that I lost excitement about sharing all that I learned last week. Which tells me I must share it asap or I won’t care anymore. Which tells me I must vlog or blog daily to get it out at all, even if I draft it to post later.

I decided to go on campus instead of online for two reasons; 1: I’ve gotten a dozen certificates online and i’ve worked from home since covid (kid of over being in the house 24/7) and 2: South Alabama has an awesome campus that’s so big it takes me at least 10-15 minutes to walk between classes. So each day I attend I get a workout both mentally and physically which feels like a winning frekkkn day to me! The rec center is huge and has yoga and pilates classes PLUS good food choices, and I also get to network with other students.

Now back to the topic; The thought of life itself being part of a simulation is bananas. BUT what came to mind immediately was the fact that each student present set a goal mentally then physically put forth effort to pursue an academic goal that placed each of us in the same room, at the same time. As a mother, wife, business owner, I understand how vaguely different each of our realities are outside of the classroom, yet we meet here at the same time, on the same days of each week. It definitely gets deeper than that *see actual YouTube videos from Nick Bostrom for a push; but also take a second to think of your current reality and how you got there.

Wether you are scrolling while chillin in bed or at your desk, you took conscious steps to get there. Everyone we have a relationship with and passerby’s are all part of the simulation. Wild to imagine huh? Anywho, I am going to share some thoughts on Socrates in my next post. It will probably be easier to get the point across by video so fingers crossed I have the enthusiasm for it by my lunch break tomorrow. Until then, let’s think about what actions we have taken (or not taken) to be living in our current reality (or simulation). What thoughts can we make and actions can we take to add or subtract from the simulation? 🧐😊

Ajia Z. Philosopher

Well, I am officially a college student, again; after 18 years. The wildest part of this chapter is remembering my first acceptance and scholarship to the University of South Alabama in 2007 & my decision to go to SpringHill College instead; I was advised that because it is a bit harder to be accepted into, it was the better choice. Never mind the fact that one year at SpringHill College cost me the same amount the full degree would’ve cost had I chosen to make South Alabama my home, back then. That’s neither here nor there at this point. I am just ecstatic to experience a “second chance” at fulfilling one of my heart’s desires, to obtain the highest degree in my field of study. Had someone told 18 year old me what 36 year old me would have achieved prior to this second chance, I may have been easier on myself for not doing things “on time”. Some scholars will tell you that time is actually not linear but cyclical. This suggests that we revisit things at different times in life where we have an opportunity to rewrite the outcome or change the course of things. Initially, (as in since 5th grade all the way to my application for this fall semester) I wanted to become a psychologist. But after having 5 kids (3 are bonus), 4 businesses, being a hair stylist and instructor, dozens of friends and clients that I selflessly offer counseling, creating a 6 figure income with licenses and certifications; I do not believe I would like the stress that comes with helping people face their truths, one on one from 9-5pm. I know that sounds harsh but although I have not been enrolled in college courses the last nearly 20 years, I have studied human behavior for as long as I can remember. And people have a hard time accepting the truth when it requires change. I would rather inspire growth through life coaching, books and conversations. This is what I have been doing since 2022. I have searched for the meaning of love and God and life as early as I can remember. My brother Jordan and I would scan through every book in the house to find words that would inspire us to be hands on with our own futures and curate the lives we wished to live. We dissected words and famous quotes to find meaning and cheat codes to a meaningful life. And here we are. Living the lives of the scholar and the artist. Autodidacts if you will. This brings me back to my “major change” (from psychology to philosophy). I decided that if I am to be an example for anyone, I must be true to myself. The deeper I dove into the psychology of the human mind, specifically through trauma, I found that witnessing or observing traumatic experiences can be just as detrimental as actually going through it firsthand. I have felt the stress in my mind and heart from seeing someone hurt or abused. It definitely feels bad too. So I believe it. I’ve researched over 20 years about multiple subjects. I think it was Ghandi who emphasized the use of discernment and believing things not just because we were taught but because they FEEL right. So I have learned to question it all & find ways to explain things to reach people at their level. I have found ways to help my family, friends, and clients elevate their lives by transforming their thought processes. I teach these through professional life coaching. In 2017 I wrote my first children’s book, “Ajia Z. Thinker”. It took me until 2023 to have it illustrated (s/o to my brother Jenyes aka Jordan “Pikasso” Perryman). Aaaand then I finally published it this year on 7/8/2025. While uploading the final docs I asked myself how does the American education system label a “thinker” at the highest level? Well wouldn’t “Philosopher” fit that description? I am a lover of knowledge. In between my first freshman year to my second time in college, I have acquired over a dozen licenses and certifications. I probably have at least one for each year I have been out of school. This tells me I am a lover of learning and I will seek knowledge until the day I die (and beyond if I get where I am going and it is possible). I told myself to document this journey closely because at 36, I have formed my outlook on lots of things based on my experience. I thought it would be fun to share some of the things that I learn so here we are. The next post will tell you all about my first week! Tomorrow is the last day of my first week back and I have so much to share! I will try to blog weekly and will also have some more videos on TikTok documenting my experiences. If you’ve read this far leave me a comment so I can cry at the fact that someone took their time out to make it here. Reading may not be a lost art after all. Also, I work better with feedback so if you ask what’s up i’m definitely telling. Blame my libra moon. 😈 k bye! :) <3

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So, I’m just here to remind myself & you guys how powerful music is. Ya know how we listen to love music when we are in love, trap music when we turning up!!?? Well, Pikasso’s music is what you need in your ears to have you focused on your next best move. For this alone, Pikasso, I appreciate ya! HIT PLAY MFSSSSSSSS 😂😂😂😂😩 CLICK HERE 

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Taco Tuesday...sorta.

sooooo we wanted tacos but already had tortillas so I made shrimp enchiladas 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I love cooking quick meals. This meal usually takes about 45 minutes total  (prep & cook time). Well, I haven’t found a marker that sells peeled & deveined shrimp near my home so I had to devein 2 pounds of shrimp myself. That took about 30 minutes so um yea it wasn’t the quickest meal but it was worth the time. 

 

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ingredients:

8 large tortillas  

2 lbs of peeled deveined shrimp  

half stick of butter  

Half packet of taco seasoning  

28oz enchilada sauce  

(Sour cream, shredded cheese, & chives optional)  

preheat over to 375  

directions:  

cook shrimp in butter and taco seasoning  

mix in enchilada sauce and cheese  

pour sauce in 13x 9 pan just enough to coat bottom  

put scoop of shrimp sauce in tortilla and fold like a burrito really tight and place in pan

repeat until All 8 enchiladas are done. 

Pour excess sauce on top  

sprinkle with cheese  

cook 20 minutes or until lightly brown  

serve with sour cream and chives on top  

 

oh and don’t forget your side of rice, beans (black or kidney) and avocado 🥑! My avocado wasn’t ripe today. 😩😆😂🤷🏽‍♀️🍤 

 

bon appetit. 💕 

#MomCrushMonday

​yea. I know. #MCM is supposed to mean “Man  CrushMonday” BUT today, i NEED to crush on ME. 

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mommy &amp; Mekhi. 4 months postpartum. Hungry. Happy. Sleepy. #momlife&nbsp;

mommy & Mekhi. 4 months postpartum. Hungry. Happy. Sleepy. #momlife 

Today I want to feel appreciated. Not that being appreciated isn’t something we all yearn for, maybe even daily, im strategically using it today. I’m literally going to (speaking with intent) crush so hard on myself today I will laugh at my to-do list by the end of this blog post (goals af right??). 

SN: Just in case you haven’t caught on, I believe words have power and that I can change my attitude ONLY if I change my focus. So today I’ll celebrate me. 🤷🏽‍♀️

A few hours ago I saw a Facebook memory of a photo shoot I did for a friends boutique (I have to s/o LaShonta bc she’s a momprenuer as well and she’s mf POPPIN (she styled this photo)

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had to give y’all a close up on the face #makeupbyAjiaZ ooowwww 😍🙏🏾🤷🏾‍♀️😂&nbsp;photography: @Ziare251

had to give y’all a close up on the face #makeupbyAjiaZ ooowwww 😍🙏🏾🤷🏾‍♀️😂 

photography: @Ziare251

so anyway it popped up in my memories on Facebook...I shared it with the caption ‘such a cauuuutie’. I remember that day like it was yesterday even though it was 4 years ago. It was hot af, in the hood, under the highway with my bro tryna get a good shot. It was my first time being wearing my natural hair for a professional shoot and the humidity fluffed my hair up! It turned out great though. 😅It was a good day.

Anyway, after a minute Jade (BFF from college) comments on my post ‘still a cutie’ and Brittany (BFF from high school) shares the pic with the caption ‘I love EVERYTHING about her’. I don’t see or talk to either one of them often (both mommy’s to a brand/kids) but they’ve always showed love *drops happy tear*). This shifted my focus  to celebrating me instead of beating me up for not organizing my closet instead 😩🙏🏾

Now, words (comments) are interesting because they have more power when said at the right/wrong time. While on an average day I would just smile 😊 say thanks and move on when given a compliment; today, at that moment, I needed to be reminded that I am still EVERYTHING to love even when I haven’t done EVERYTHING I decide needs to be done. follow me?? So now we are here with this blog post full of gratitude and acknowledgement of myself and a few good reasons why I’m fuckn awesome. 

happy bday Sakoyia 😍🎉 *mama had a little work to do today #makeupbyAjiaZ&nbsp;

happy bday Sakoyia 😍🎉 *mama had a little work to do today #makeupbyAjiaZ 

First things first. As of now, I am a stay at home mom. I still do hair and makeup daily. just one or two gigs, not too much because I also breastfeed 🤱🏾 why is that important that I add that part you may ask?? Well for starters that means every 1-3 hours I am physically at the service of another human being (that’s 8-12 times a day 🤔). Which means I have to pause where ever I am at the moment to feed my baby so he can continue to grow and be healthy and happy 😃 (even if I’m hungry, sleepy, or tired). Yes. I birthed a beautiful boy 5 months ago today, who’s growing right in front of my eyes 👀 with my nurturing (And daddy & big sisters & granny’s spoiling him). 

look at this face. How could you not just hug him and squeeze him and kiss him and allat?

look at this face. How could you not just hug him and squeeze him and kiss him and allat?

Right now at this moment he’s a little stuffy so he wants to cry and eat and cuddle all day. So that 30 minute meal turns into a 2 and half hour attempt to sooth him (ok I like cuddling too his gorgeous are you kidding me?) I also have his beautiful, smart, funny 8, 12, & 15 year old sisters and 18 year old brother. We have daddy (hubby) and we all live comfortably under one roof 🎊😩🙏🏾 (Glory to God). Mom is my full time job. Running a business is a full time job. Staying sane is a full time job. It’s not easy but I wouldn’t want it any other way.

*exhale 🧘🏾‍♀️😅🤪 

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How could I forget my other babies though?? Zubada Natural Beauty. She’ll be two years old this year. Orders are being placed almost every day even with minimal promotion. I have to say it is true quality sells itself (via word of mouth (thanks God). BUT in business you only get out what you put in (such as life). She’s taught me so much and I am very excited about where’s we are going. I am currently looking to hire brand ambassadors, sales reps & writers. (Email shopzubada@gmail.com if you’re looking for a beauty brand to build with). 

Shop now www.AjiaZubada.com

Shop now www.AjiaZubada.com

And my sisters. Sister Code. The beautiful brainchild of me and my best friend Arielle. (your @favcousinelle) . Ten years ago (yep. 10; 5 then 5 more), we discussed speaking on camera to share messages with other women about things that we go through and lessons that we’ve learned. We would meet up once a week and just vent and it always seemed to be a lesson for us both by the end of our conversations. Last year (9 years later) we discussed filming at my house and uploading to YouTube. Arielle mentions it to her ppl, we get together, BOOM 💥 Sister Code becomes a podcast via iHeartRadio. Fast forward a year and we get to today. Our podcast can be downloaded on iHeart or iTunes AND WE ARE NOW the #1 podcast on the GULFCOAST!!!! Yeah. I’m tooting my own horn. One because I need that. From me first. And if you’ve read this far ya gotta love me too 🤷🏽‍♀️😂😎🤟🏾So you don’t mind if I share what’s good do you!? Nah? You’re happy for me!? 😃🙏🏾😩 cool  😎 

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ok so back to my day to day. My house isn’t as clean as I’d like it to be at this moment (don’t judge the background in my pic it’s been cleaned, unorganized, and moved around since the pic was taken. Judge ya mama). I have clean things to put away. Clothes to organize and give away (lots of growing ppl over here) AND while we are on that subject might I add 5 months postpartum and I’m back baybeeeeeee! Lmao fine as ever 🤷🏽‍♀️ Flat tummy, fat ass, hair justa growing! 😂smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ (thanks to Zubada Natural Beauty products).

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Looks like it worked. Praising myself on this post has changed my attitude. (Yes I am venting. Yes writing is totally therapeutic.)

I have so much to be thankful for! Did I mention that I’m deciding on a publisher? For my other baby?? My first children’s book. Illustrated by the one and only Melissa Deon Acevedo aka Medusa. Yea she’s the #1 artist on the gulfcoast. She happens to really really love me 😎🤪 so she’s found time to make that happen (yea, I’m bragging. She’s the shit I’m crushing on her too.)  

‘Medusa’ &amp; Mekhi 💕 

Medusa’ & Mekhi 💕 

 

I’m pretty sure that’s enough for today. I’m good. Now I’m laughing at my to-do list (nah, Ian laughing but I’m feeling a bit more powerful now that I’ve reminded myself exactly who I am). Let’s get this day started (I know it’s late ijs #MOMLIFE the day starts after every nap. If we are lucky to get one. 😅 MF.)  

Im grateful. I dare you to count some of your blessings. We all pray and ask for GREAT things. Let’s not forget it takes WORK to be great. So we deserve the rest, actually it’s essential to success. Go easy on yourself MAMAS. Especially the ones taking good care of babies 👶🏾 (human and businesses). Whatever is good let’s focus on these things. Crush on you. Even if you can only put an hour or two toward your goals remember slow motion is better than no motion (and you can get nowhere fast). So take time out to look at where you are and how far you’ve come. It’s ok to say no to protect your peace. It’s ok to feel bad sometimes just remember just because you feel it doesn’t mean you should feed it. Feel it honestly even when it hurts. But be intentional in your healing DAILY. Even if it looks like taking a nap instead of washing a load of clothes bc you haven’t had rest. It can wait (Just get it done sooner than later lol).

we all have responsibilities. Most of them are blessings though. We complain about mortgage/rent while others are praying for it. We complain about going to work when others are praying for minimum wage. Ijs if being thankful is the cure to the blues and the key to happiness why not start there. Count ya blessings. Like really what’s good??? For me just finishing this blog post is praiseworthy. I’m feeding Mekhi as I finish up edits and tags.

Love yours. I know I prayed for this life I’m living. I am so blessed. I just didn’t know the magnitude of the phrase ‘to whom much is given much is required’. Now that I know though I’m gonna give it all I got! Lol after this nap though. Woooow 🎊🎉go moms. Who’s your #MCM MomCrushMonday ? Start with YOU! 😉